I had a specific situation with an employee. This person has an excellent track record of hard work, dependability, and trust. I was totally caught off guard with their request.
Money or Benefits?
Had I done something wrong?
Are they quitting?
Alarm and questions flood my mind.
I had a specific situation with my son. I had a huge problem with the lyrics of the music he was listening to. I believe that your inputs affect your outlook and ultimately your life. I know a combination of the wrong inputs can create lasting problems.
Is he headed down the wrong path?
Did I teach him the right things?
Alarm and questions flood my mind.
Ever heard of Fisher’s Rule?
It states 90% of the way people treat you has nothing to do with you at all. Most of the time, IT’S NOT PERSONAL.
The questions that flooded my mind in both situations were self centered. What did I do? This is a great place to start but it is a terrible place to end. Thank God, both situations were resolved with real heart to heart conversations.
Conversations open the door for empathy.
Empathy opens the door to your heart.
… for the Lord seeth not as man seeth; for man looketh on the outward appearance, but the Lord looketh on the heart.
1 Samuel 16:7b KJV